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This site was originally created by my deceased husband “Terry” to share his life which like most people was filled with both happiness and sadness, successes and disappointments. He started this blog at age 55 and at that time he realized that as human beings we would not be on this earth forever. He felt at that time a need to accomplish so much more and to begin experiencing life to its fullest. In his early 20s he had many years of therapy to combat depression, but over time realized that there are actually many other people out there that are not much different from himself. He understood that most people live average lives, filled with many ups and downs and varying challenges and goals that we all strive for. So, he candidly asked himself, what truly made his life more special than others, but then as he thought about it he realized….nothing really?

Terry originally created his blogsite to write about his life. He hoped that maybe other people could relate to his writings and that it may help them in some way to confront challenges within their own lives. However, as he thought about it again, maybe his writings would just be a way to help himself as a person to accept his life as it was and to become content. Either way, Terry’s blog transformed into something wonderful which ultimately impacted so many people. Little did Terry realize that shortly after starting his blog that he would develop cancer and that for the next few years he would be fighting for his life with hopes that his cancer could be eradicated. During these trying times, through his blog and his writings and because of your kind comments and support, it helped him to cope with his medical condition and to accept that as his health worsened and as his cancer spread, that his life on the earth would soon be coming to an end. Through your kind words, dedicated support and genuine love, Terry he was able to remain remarkably strong and to confront his fate right to the very end. On September 1, 2017, our dear Terry passed away and was immediately welcomed by God and other loved ones that passed before him to the wonderful Gates of Heaven.

I never realized the tremendous impact that Terry’s blogsite would ultimately have upon me and others. When he first began writing he did so merely to express his deep thoughts and to share aspects about his own life. His blog later transitioned into a wonderful tool to help him to confront his diagnosis of cancer and ultimately to accept his fate. Little did I realize that his writings, photos and videos would become such a precious gift for me to cherish and to be used as a means to keep the memory of Terry’s short life on this earth alive.

What is so remarkable is that things often happen in life for a reason. As I reflect back, Terry had no idea when he started his blogsite what the future would hold for him. However, his blogsite in some ways may have truly been developed by him as an ultimate means to help me to cope with my life after his passing. By continuing to keep this blogsite active after Terry’s death and deciding to begin sharing my thoughts and emotions in life with others has become a helpful and effective therapeutic tool for me to keep moving forward. Your kind comments, support, encouragement and love has definitely helped me to be able to cope and to accept Terry’s death as God’s will. Terry’s passing and this blogsite makes me realize more now than ever that life is truly fragile and when we will ultimately be called to our eternal life by our maker is truly out of our control. All we can do for now while on this earth is to do our best to continue to embrace life to its fullest and to strive to become a positive example for others and to love and be kind to one another.

I started to write on this blogsite just a few days after Terry’s death in September 2017. I feel that I will continue to blog and to express my thoughts about many topics and to also use it as a means to move forward in life and to accept in a positive way any challenges that I might be confronted with along the way.

Love to All,

Gary